There are a lot of stories that you might have seen , read a lot of novels about life , growing up, being a teenager, parenting or about how you can make things work, but in this work of mine I will be putting forth how simple things become complicated just because we don't know how to do things right.
lets start form the very beginning , yeah right when we are still kids . It's said that you should never scold your child for admitting their mistakes that is when they tell you what wrong they have done, as it makes them scared of telling the truth , basic right . But how many parents follow it ,we get restless and anxious ,lose our temper and give them an earful. This results in promoting hiding truth and lying eventually . So, before saying anything just hold on for a second calm down and try explaining them in a way that they can understand whatever you utter , you can't expect a 6 year old to understand value of money wait wait let me try to explain with the help of situation.....
imagine your kid broke a watch and he or she is 9 years , taking a little higher age group cause we can all hold ourselves when it comes to younger kids, and they don't tell you. You search for it but couldn't find it .Now you began investigating and find out who it is . Just go up to the child and say that it's fine, not really a big deal but they should be more careful next time and tell you what they have done moreover that it could be solved .but this will only work for those who already know importance of these things and money you earn; as there are 3 types of children firstly, those who are very sensitive and feel guilty for what they did ,secondly the ones who don't give any heed to it thirdly , the normal once who understand but don't feel much guilty .3rd once are no problems at all , 2nd one's need a little lecture on valuing things but 1st one's need consoling ,they are one's we are going to talk about mostly cause i'm one of them so, know how it's like howover i'm not any specialist to know it all i can speak of only what i know .The one's that feel guilty for what wrong they have done unknowingly or if it just happened may be because they were careless or because it had to happen , call it fate makes them worry a lot and if you just let it go without telling a word that would just make them more guilty as they have the realization what they have done so,just say that they can let it go . It's very important to raise these kids in a way that they can learn to let go of things , make them not to feel guilty otherwise they will feel pissed off for not so important stuff making it hard for them to live happily .
Now let's move a little ahead when we are teenagers and it's time to try ourselves out in the competitive world , it's actually more tough then it appears . Everyone trying to meet expectations, be it parents or children . Parents struggling to give their children all facilities which they couldn't get and even more to get their children exposure to opportunities and ace in the fields they are in . And children trying to meet up to these expectations of being good in studies and excelling in whatever their parents dream of but sometimes the hard work our parents do for us especially for those who have the realization of their parent's expectation and try to do everything they are looked upon , like being... being good in ..in academics, household chores , cooking , sports , speaking skills ectera ectera.... it puts a lot of burden on them , parents may not have told them directly but they some how know what is expected of them , this situation gets worst when you hear your teachers and parents saying that you have potential to do even more better and you yourself are aware of it that a little more work could make magic out of whatever you do but what if you are already doing more than what you think you can, already putting in bone breaking efforts but couldn't make upto the mark may be cause you were reluctant somewhere at some point , disappointing right . It breaks the child upto their innerself , shakes the belief they have in themselves and all that is left is guilt and resentment of not meeting what was expected from them . Why can't parents understand if they are trying their level best to give their kids what they can even the child is trying it's best to fulfil their parents dream still as they understand that their parents are tried of working and need rest why can't they expect parents to have the same attitude ,Just because they are young and can work more, are more energetic ,rubbish even we get tried of doing same things, hearing same comparisons moreover getting the feeling that we failed . lets not force children in any way to meet our dreams; it doesn't mean to stop advising or guiding, it's just that make them aware about what life would be like being someone you desire them to be but don't make them feel compelled to become one of them . If they fail in one thing , go to them say that it's fine lets try something else ;that would make them feel a little relieved ....but remember you can make them comfortable only when you yourself get over those illogically high standards of society .
what is the most powerful and important thing in this world ,money right all of us agree on it . Cause money can buy us everything we want bitter but true . All comforts and respect that's what we know through our observation and conversation between grown ups, you can't deny cause when you look at your kids and wish something for them , it's that you don't want them to struggle for anything and thus advise them to be someone who either holds power or has money right ,but is it good to preach something like that ... this world is a cruel place to survive and the one having neither money nor power can't be easy going and happy . But aren't their people having money or power or even both still not so very happy let me give one such example ; ALEXANDER The Great , one of the greatest person world has ever seen ,the one who conquered half of Asia and had lot of riches but died at a young age and when was take to his grave he asked his men to get 4 doctors to carry his corpses with his hands hanging down from his coffin and all his fortune scattered on the ground till his grave on which he would be walked off giving the message that whatever he had was of no use non of it could save him and all that he longed for was that he could have spend more time with the people who loved him and could be content .
It's not that money is not important it's good to have a considerable fortune but being happy and contented with what you have is more worthy of the live you have been rewarded with. It's not hard to be rich but hard to be happy , to trust be trusted , to love and be loved . That's what we should teach our kids as parents . Cause if every child is taught how to be happy over what can make us happy wouldn't the world be a better place to live ?
We find diamonds more beautiful and worthy of our importance but is it all that is important , think of the other stones the once you find around rivers those tiny little pebbles aren't they beautiful but whose is going to pay for them right ?
Still give it a second thought ...you can't be buying diamonds to decorate your house ,that's exactly where those pebbles gain value and you spend on them .not every carbon form can be diamond but that doesn't mean coal isn't important, you only know it's importance when you run out of it .
Enough of all these wise talks lets start the story which will help you relate to all the topics up here cause it's easier to understand with examples than theories.