💪How to set boundaries
👉type of Boundries
Emotional, physical, spiritual, financial or material, digital, social, sexual, time
1: Create boundaries (less available less communicate)
2: State boundaries to others(communicate with logical reasons)
3: Maintaining boundaries with others
4: Sticking consistent with boundaries
👉Type of boundaries
1) Physical Boundaries
Physical boundaries protect your space and body, your right to not be touched, to have privacy, and to meet your physical needs such as resting or eating. They tell others how close they can get to you, what kind of physical touch (if any) is okay, how much privacy you need, and how to behave in your personal space. A physical boundary clearly defines that your body and personal space belong to you.
Examples:
When someone sits uncomfortably close to you, you move away or say, I need a little more personal space.
We dont keep or consume alcohol at our house.
2) Sexual Boundaries
Sexual boundaries protect your right to consent, to ask for what you like sexually, and to honesty about your partners sexual history. They define what kind of sexual touch and intimacy you want, how often, when, where, and with whom.
Examples:
Id like to be touched like this.
Thuy has a personal policy of not having sex on the first date
3) Emotional or Mental Boundaries
Emotional or mental boundaries protect your right to have your own feelings and thoughts, to not have your feelings criticized or invalidated, and not have to take care of other people's feelings. Emotional boundaries differentiate your feelings from other peoples, so youre accountable for your own feelings, but not responsible for how others feel. Emotional boundaries also allow us to create emotional safety by respecting each other's feelings, not oversharing personal information thats inappropriate for the nature or level of closeness in the relationship.
Examples:
I dont feel comfortable discussing this.
I feel embarrassed and powerless when you chastise me in front of our kids. Id like you to stop.
4) Spiritual or Religious Boundaries
Spiritual boundaries protect your right to believe in what you want, worship as you wish, and practice your spiritual or religious beliefs.
Examples:
Im going to take a moment and say a silent prayer before we eat.
Paul goes to church alone because his partner doesnt share his beliefs.
5) Financial and Material Boundaries
Financial and material boundaries protect your financial resources and possessions, your right to spend your money as you choose, to not give or loan your money or possessions if you dont want to, and your right to be paid by an employer as agreed.
Examples:
Im on a budget, so I brought my lunch from home and wont be ordering lunch today.
Please dont borrow my car without asking.
6) Time Boundaries
Time boundaries protect how you spend your time. They protect you from agreeing to do things you don't want to do, having people waste your time, and being overworked.
Examples:
I reserve my evenings for family time. Ill respond to all work emails first thing in the morning.
Dad, I dont have time to take you shopping this week. Ill place an order for you with the grocery delivery service.
👉How to set and maintain good boundaries
Reflect on the reasons for your boundaries. ...
Start with a few boundaries. ...
Consider setting boundaries early on. ...
Try to be consistent with your boundaries. ...
Carve out time for yourself. ...
Don't be afraid to include extra boundaries. ...
Set healthy boundaries on social media.
👉Poor boundaries
From sources across the web
Becoming demanding of your time
Oversharing personal information
Wanting to know your schedule
Difficulty making decisions
They want to intimidate you
You compromise on your boundaries constantly
Feeling resentful
People pleasing
You blame others
Poor sense of self
What are boundaries?
You feel put out
Difficulty saying no
Fear of rejection
Ignoring your own needs
Manipulation
Mental health issues
No one listens to you
Passive-aggressive behavior
Projecting yourself onto your partner
Relationships are often difficult or dramatic
You feel taken advantage of
You let others define your life