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Chapter 4 - Chapter 4

Now, let's go to making personal decisions and choosing life profession. Normally, there is this lie our parents always tell us. I guess every child like me is familiar with this statement told to us by parents and maybe, elders and older ones:

"You are free to do whatever you choose to do."

"You can become whatever profession you choose."

"You are an adult so we won't interfere in your business."

Blah, blah, blah.

Let me tell you. Those words are just uttered for the fun of it. Our parents don't mean it at all. If you protest against what I'm saying, then, try testing your parents. Maybe not all parents but 90 percent of them will be totally upset about it when you mention a non-promising career to them.

Someday, just wake up from your bed and tell your dad when having breakfast that you would love to be a driver, a butler, a janitor or any other similar non-career jobs. The same parents that told you to be whomever you want to be will start choosing career professions for you. Professions you know you don't like. But they won't give your despair a thought. They will tell you to the face that they didn't spent their hard-earned money training you to all levels of academics just for you to say without any iota of reservation, that you want to maybe become a bodyguard or a governess (care taker) in people's homes.

Some parents are okay with you having your hobby or your main interest as a side factor or side job. But the career job they have probably chosen for you comes first. Being successful is their main aim for you which I can't blame them for. It's just shouldn't be forced.

As for personal decisions, well, that can't be enforced by you either as long as your parents are alive. This is due to the fact that since you were born, your parents has had your life all planned out for you and there's no way you are thwarting their beautiful plans. You just have to grow to like it, accept it or live with it.

Well, as for this part of career choice and making personal decisions, I'm not that worried because I'm sure I would have my own decision on that aspect.

The only way you can escape being forced to be someone you are not is by having a career choice in mind and succeeding with it. That is the most convincing way to show your parents that you can make something good of yourself without their overbearing nature.