In marriage, for a man like me, do they never think about our partner's happiness? Indirectly, we have taken a daughter from her parents.
For dozens of years, their parents have provided abundant material, education and love. Given things that we may not even be able to give them.
To convince their parents that their child will be happy with us is hard to ask for forgiveness. Even those who already have a job are the toughest thing for him, let alone those who don't have a job like me?
Everything needs a process, but how long does it take? The age of 20 is still vulnerable and can be said to be unstable. Thankfully, the partner can behave maturely, but if you're married, it's not love anymore.
The business is already worldly, one word that can cause household destruction besides 'mistress', is 'money'. If he is not given strong faith, patience in holding his chest, sincerely accepting reality, maybe we can just be kicked out and look for someone better than us.
Even now, I still like to think hard. Am I capable? Am I ready to go through this young marriage? Divorce today has become a common occurrence. The number of marriages and divorces is almost equal, even greater divorces. The beginning is sweet, say 'let's get married', eventually they will definitely say 'let's get divorced'.
Marriage is not an easy thing, there are many causes and effects if we take an action. A meeting will definitely end in separation, but does a marriage have to end in divorce too?
If you are divorced by death, it doesn't matter, but if you are divorced in a situation that doesn't meet their expectations, what do you think?
An introduction to the process of getting married is necessary. Mental readiness when the world is spinning and we are at the bottom, is our partner ready to always be there for us?
We will never know what our life will be like in the future, therefore such agreements must be emphasized.
Similarly, I emphasize to Nadia, is she ready if she has to be at the bottom with me?
And, what I like is that Nadia answers like this
I've been to the very bottom, the lowest position that you have to crawl back up to. That's the key to our future happiness. How can you and I get through that together? There are only two answers, Niko.
'Surrender to God our destiny and let our hearts accept our current situation. Undoubtedly, despite decades of process, as long as we work together, support each other, smile even when it hurts, you and I will be able to face it***'.
How amazing was Nadia's answer one year ago before we got married. I love her answer and what I like even more is that Nadia once said
'Love is never eternal, Niko. Eternal love only exists for parents to their children. Man's love for his God. Eventually we must get bored with our respective partners. But you must always remember, how we first felt in love. And, for sure when you are already at the top, never forget the memories when we were at the bottom. Think of them as our life lessons.'
This young marriage frustrates me sometimes. Sometimes, I miss my youth. I can no longer have fun as a bachelor like I used to. But, fortunately Nadia frees me to do anything, as long as I always remember that there is someone waiting at home.
"What are you thinking about, Nik?" asked Bobby, breaking my reverie.
"Huh? No, I'm just thinking about Nadia."
"Nadia? Why, do you miss your wife?"
"No, I'm just thinking about whether Nadia will be happy living with an unemployed husband like me?"
"You don't want to talk about happiness, you should be proud to have a wife like Nadia. Your wife is smart, she's also independent and not spoiled like other women. And one more thing, you should be proud because Nadia had a hard life when she was in elementary school."
"Yes, you're right."
"Remember you told Nadia that when she was in elementary school, her family went out of business and they started from scratch. You probably know this because you witnessed Nadia's bitter life back then. But a girl like Nadia, who was still young at the time, how could she not be great? She can motivate herself and her family to get back on their feet."
What Bobby said was true. I still clearly remember Nadia's bitter memories at that time. I witnessed the harshness of Nadia's life when she was in elementary school. Nadia is indeed a great woman that I know. And, I'm proud to know her and to have a wife like her.
1 hour later, the lecture finally ended. When I left the classroom, I accidentally bumped into Nina at the door. Nina was silent for a moment, but then she smiled at me and left. I wondered, did I have something wrong with her all this time?
"Don't you ask Nina why she's so indifferent to you?" asked Bobby when we were in the campus cafeteria.
"I don't care, I'm too lazy to ask questions like that. If she still wants to be friends with me, thank God, if not, it doesn't matter. No need to make it complicated."
"So cool you!" Bobby snapped while eating the bowl of meatballs in front of him with gusto.
I just shook my head seeing Bobby's behavior every day like that. Talking a lot and pretending to advise. But, I admit, his advice sometimes helps. And, I think Bobby is suitable to be a philosopher. It looks like Bobby got the wrong major, because basically he really likes to talk and philosophize.
"If you're not married to Nadia, I want to be her husband"
"Does Nadia want to be with you?"
"Even with you, what about me?"
"Your level of stupidity is amazing!"
"If you don't want Nadia anymore, throw her to me, Nik."
"I'm throwing Nadia!"