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Chapter 21 - Is Having A Good Handwriting Essential?

Now there's a question about our handwriting. There are many ways a person can write in. Some students write in small font, some have big handwriting. Many of us write in cursive but many do not.

Most people are right-handed. Then we have our friends who are left-handed too. As an ambidexter, I prefer writing with my right hand. Why? Because it makes my handwriting better somehow. Other things like drawing, playing an instrument, or even eating, I prefer doing it with my left hand.

Is having good handwriting important? I think not. Having neat writing is more important.

Not everyone can write like a professional calligrapher. Also, I don't think you need to develop such a skill unless you want to.

Why is neat handwriting needed, though? We need it as when we write answers to questions in our answer sheets, doing homework in our notebooks, making notes, or even sometimes for some job opportunities, we need neat handwriting.

Writing is said to be neat when it is understandable enough. When others and you, yourself can understand your handwriting, then it's neat.

Don't aim for perfection that much. Believe in practice more.

You can take a printout of a font you like and then write the sentences by tracing the font. It will take some time to get used to it.

Viola! You have the writing which you want to have. No need for any good handwriting classes.

If you like your writing, then it is enough.

I still remember three years ago, I had a form teacher who didn't like my handwriting. The funniest thing was that all my teachers, relatives, classmates, friends and my family didn't have any problem with it.

Just because of that one teacher, I felt so insecure about it. I kept trying to change it again and again, but she never complimented me. She gave us homework which had to be submitted a few days later. I completed it all and submitted it just as she asked.

After some time, She called me from my class and asked me if this was written by someone else. How could I give her a proper explanation? I was so devastated and heartbroken because I always do all my homework by myself.

Later, I realized that it doesn't matter. As long as I like my writing and I know I didn't do wrong there's nothing to be sad about. What did I expect? Like, How can I expect all the teachers who teach me to be super nice?

So basically, How can we think that our lives would always be perfect? And that everyone will love me and be friendly?

Every person in this world has a different perspective. Neither everyone can like you nor everyone can like your perspectives and choices.

Not everyone can understand and accept you or even respect you.

Even though they are a bad person to you, they might be good to their parents, family, or friends.

We judge if someone is a nice person or not by how they treat us.

We judge people if they are useful to us or not by their capability, power, status, money, etc.

This is how it works. So no one is a good person who is loved by everyone and no one is bad.

It is just our perspectives, Our way of thinking. The same thing goes for some hobbies and social topics.

Some people are extremely frank. If they don't like something about you, they won't bother keeping it inside. They'll say that right in front of you. Not even indirectly but rather straightforwardly.

Not trying to be harsh, but I think this type of person doesn't have "emotional intelligence".

There is IQ which stands for "Intelligence quotient" while EQ stands for "Emotional quotient"

IQ is about how much intelligence you have while EQ is for how sentimental you are, how much you understand others and yourself.

By Emotional intelligence, I mean, Can you understand everyone's perspective including yours? Do you get goosebumps all over your body or confidence or energy when watching a scene of a movie or playing a song?

Can you even cry because of that? If that is happening to you, you are not weak. You have the power to understand anyone's thoughts and beliefs. Even if they're not yours

Many people don't have this. And those who don't, think those people who cry because of some movie scenes of songs are overly sensitive and weak.

You know who you are. Don't believe negative people. Oh, and don't fight with them either. If they go out of the line you should but if they are you, elders, just listen and ignore them. Don't take it to heart. Why? Because that person is not worth it.

A negative person can be found anywhere. It can be your parents, relatives, friends, classmates, teachers, family, random people, and even you.

How can you be nice to others? Know this rule-- If you don't like something about a person, no need to always point it out.

Well, except if it affects your mental wellbeing. For example, they bullying you, they are not nice or are wasting a lot of your study time.

If you don't like how someone looks, no need to point it out. Even while making jokes, don't tease them on how they look. Why? You never know if someone takes it seriously.

Secondly, if you can't be nice, don't be a bad person either.

Are you still having problems with them because they look ugly? Just ignore them. Don't talk to them or be friends with them. Also, no need to be enemies either.

Even provoking people just for the sake of fun is not cool. I've met so many people in my life that don't understand this at all.

Racial discrimination, fat-shaming, discrimination because of their background or culture is really bad. Stop making them insecure that they are not okay the way they are. I bet you'll hate it if someone does that to you.

If you keep denying and saying it's just a joke, it's still not cool at all. You guys are not interested to be in the jerks category right?

Thirdly, if someone is uncomfortable talking about a topic, don't force them to talk about it. Asking them how many cars do they have, How much do their parents earn each month, not everyone is lavishly rich.

Lastly, respect them.

It's not that hard to respect someone. You don't have to pay your respects as if they are royalty or something. You can just say good morning when they enter the class or sit with them during lunch breaks. By just doing these for a few days, not only the person whom you're doing this for would be happy, even you, yourself will feel more enthusiastic towards school. Who knows you two might even become best friends?