During lunch at Derek's childhood home, Derek takes a deep breath and decides it's time to broach the topic. "Mom, Dad, Maria, there's something important Carla and I want to discuss with you."
The room quiets as Derek's family turns their attention to him, sensing the gravity of the moment. "We want to talk about the lobolo. Carla and I have been thinking a lot about how to honor both our traditions and our values. We respect the importance of lobolo in our culture, but we also want to find a way that feels right for us."
Derek's mother, her expression softening, nods encouragingly, while his father and Maria listen intently. Carla, feeling a surge of support from Derek, continues, "We'd like to propose a ceremony that includes elements of lobolo but also reflects our personal beliefs and the unity of our cultures. We want it to be meaningful for both of our families."
