If Su Xiaowan had not been so determined, so forceful in following Han Dongchen to the front lines, she wouldn't have the life she has today.
If Su Xiaowan had not been so diligent in her endeavors, she wouldn't be living such a comfortable life today.
How many obstacles and difficulties did she encounter along the way? Yet she, Su Xiaowan, never gave up, she didn't fear others' critiques nor did she care about the disdainful eyes of others.
Han Dongchen used to be unsupportive, disapproving. But what would have happened if Su Xiaowan had given in back then?
Thus, you have to be kind to yourself, stay true to your desires and pursuits, and everything else would yield to you.
That being said, if Su Xiaowan had always stayed in the countryside, working the land, would Han Dongchen still love her as he does now?
There's never love without reason, nor is there hatred without cause. Both love and hate have their origins.
