"Thank you all for the positive reviews in the chat. I'm here to help my fellow men in need. If either of you has any other questions or would you like to continue the discussion on a specific topic? Just let me know."
"Life Coach, what's the first step I should take in talking to a girl who I really like? For a long time now, I've been awkward talking to girls?"
"Oh, I get asked this a lot. The first step in talking to a girl you like is to approach her with confidence and respect. Remember that she is a person like you, not some otherworldly entity. So there is no need to be scared. Just treat her with consideration. Here are a few tips for how to start a conversation with a girl you like:
Approach her in a friendly and non-threatening way. If you're feeling nervous, try to take a deep breath and relax. Start with a simple greeting.
You could say something like "Hi, how's it going?" or "Hey, how are you doing?"
Introduce yourself. If you haven't met before, give her your name. Make small talk. Ask her how her day has been, or find something in your surroundings to comment on or ask a question about.
Be genuine and sincere. Avoid coming across as manipulative or insincere. Be authentic in your interactions with her. Remember, by approaching her with confidence and kindness, you'll be well on your way to building a connection."
"I understand, Life Coach, but what if she doesn't like nice guys, what then?"
"If she doesn't like nice guys?" Life Coach paused to think before he answered the question. "Everyone has their preferences and it's not up to you to try to change who you are to fit someone else's expectations. Being kind and respectful is always a good thing, trust me. And it's important to be true to yourself and treat others with respect regardless of whether or not you think it will make someone like you.
However, it's also important to be open to feedback and to consider how your actions and behaviours may be affecting others. If you find that someone is not responding well to your kindness, it may be worth taking a step back and considering whether there are any changes you can make in how you interact with them.
At the same time, note that you cannot control someone else's feelings. If someone doesn't like you, it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. Remember that you are worthy of respect and love regardless of whether or not someone else feels the same way.
Ultimately, the most important thing is to be true to yourself. If someone doesn't appreciate those qualities in you, it may be best to move on and focus on building relationships with people who do. Did this answer your question, SmugMaster7?"
"Not really. I like this girl very much, but she is into bad boys. My friends, don't treat women with respect, yet they are getting all the hot girls. How do I get girls like them?"
The Life Coach chuckled and said to the audience, "This person wants me to teach him how to be a player. But we're not playing that game today. Listen, lads, genuine respect and kindness are important qualities that can be attractive to many people. While it may be true that some women are drawn to bad boys or those who don't treat others with respect, these relationships are often unhealthy and can lead to negative consequences and don't last very long. So be true to yourself and value your self-worth.
Don't get too caught up in the drama you see playing out on social media. Although the top percentage of players are slanging penis left and right on multiple fillies by using deceptive methods; lasting relationships are about mutual respect and caring. If you find that you are attracted to someone who doesn't treat you or others with respect, it may be worth reconsidering whether or not this is a healthy and fulfilling relationship for you."
Another person in the chat commented, "I'm currently going through puberty and I have a high sexual drive. Because I don't have a girlfriend and girls don't find me attractive, I often watch porn and masturbate. Is this healthy and how do I get the girls to like me?"
"Wow, this is a big one." Expressed the Life Coach as he browse through the chat. "Masturbation is a normal and healthy part of human sexuality and it's completely natural to have a strong sexual drive as a teenager. We all went through it. However, healthy relationships involve more than just physical attraction. Many other factors contribute to a successful and fulfilling relationship.
If you're feeling self-conscious about your appearance, it can be helpful to focus on things you can control, such as taking care of your physical health through exercise and a healthy diet, dressing well and taking care of your hygiene. I've said this time and time again, focus on your personal growth and development and work on becoming the best version of yourself that you can be.
Remember, attractiveness is subjective and different people are attracted to different things. Instead of trying to change yourself to fit a specific person's expectations, focus on being confident and genuine and on building relationships with people who appreciate and value you for who you are.
Also, relationships take time and effort to develop, so it is very normal to feel anxious or nervous about dating. If you're feeling anxious or unsure about how to approach dating, it can be helpful to talk to someone aside from me that you trust, such as a friend or a family member. They can offer another perspective as well as support and guidance as you navigate the dating world.
And lastly, it is okay to take things slow and wait until you feel ready to pursue a relationship. Wait until you feel comfortable and confident in yourself rather than rush into something that you're not ready for. Don't be peer pressured into throwing away your virginity. You just might go out there without the proper tools and get some girl pregnant, then what will you do as a young man? Are you in a position to support that child? Are you aware of the many issues that come with dealing with teenage pregnancy and baby mother drama?"
"No, sir. I'm not aware." Answered the person speaking in the chat.
"Of course, you don't, so it's best to avoid this unfortunate scenario."
"Probably she rejected me because I'm short." Said the chat member.
The Life Coach took a deep breath then commenced speaking, "Let me tell you something young man, from my personal experience with women, it's ok to feel disappointed and hurt when someone you like rejects you, and it's okay to take some time to process your feelings. However, remember that you are worthy of respect and love regardless of your height or any other physical characteristic.
It can be difficult to accept that someone doesn't feel the same way about us as we do about them, but just accept the reality of what is. While it's okay to try to be your best self and to put your best foot forward in a relationship, it's not healthy or appropriate to try to change absolutely everything about who you are in order to fit someone else's expectations.
Instead of focusing on trying to get this particular person to like you, try to focus on building your self-confidence and finding ways to be happy and fulfilled in your own life. This can involve developing your interests and passions and building positive relationships with friends and family."
"Life Coach I'm very skinny and not very good looking, what are some steps that I should take to get in shape and look more handsome?"
"Do you need me to spell everything out for you?" The Life Coach sounded perturbed. "Alright, there are several steps you can take to improve your physical health and appearance. For one, you need to exercise regularly. Regular physical activity can help you build muscle faster and improve your overall health. Choose activities that you enjoy, probably running, swimming, or lifting weights. Whatever it may be. Aim for at least 15 minutes of moderate-intensity exercise most days of the week and keep up that routine.
Have a healthy diet; one that includes a variety of fruits, vegetables, whole grains and lean proteins. These can help you maintain a healthy weight and support your overall health. Avoid processed and sugary foods, and try to limit your intake of alcohol and caffeine. Do you all see how meticulous I'm getting here?" The Life Coach chuckled and continued.
"Get enough sleep. Aim for 6-8 hours of sleep each night to help your body and mind recharge and repair. Take care of your hygiene. Make sure to shower regularly, brush your teeth twice a day or even 3 times a day and use deodorant to keep yourself clean and fresh.
Dress well and choose clothing that fits well and is in good condition that reflects your style. Pay attention to your grooming, such as keeping your hair clean and styled and keeping your facial hair well-trimmed if you have any.
Lastly, focus on your overall health and well-being, rather than just trying to change your appearance for the sake of others. By taking care of yourself and making healthy lifestyle choices, you can feel more confident and attractive both inside and out." Finished the Life Coach.