Another person in the chat commented, "But Life Coach I'm fat and lazy. How do I even begin to exercise?" I couldn't prevent myself from smiling when I read this one.
The life coach braced against his stool and said, "It's completely normal to feel overwhelmed or unsure about how to start an exercise routine, especially if you're not used to being physically active. However, everyone has to start somewhere. The most important thing is to find activities that you enjoy and that you can stick with over the long term. I'll give you a few examples of getting started with an exercise routine.
Start small - Begin with just a few minutes of activity each day, and gradually increase the amount of time you spend exercising as you become more comfortable and confident.
Choose activities that you enjoy - The best exercise is the one that you'll actually do, so choose activities that you find enjoyable.
Find a workout buddy - Having someone to exercise with can help you stay motivated and accountable. You might consider finding a friend or family member who is also interested in getting in shape or joining a group fitness class.
Seek support - If you're struggling to get motivated or to stick with an exercise routine, consider seeking the help of a coach or a personal trainer.
The key to success is to find activities that you enjoy and that you can stick with over the long term. With patience and persistence, you can develop a lifelong habit of regular physical activity that will benefit your health and well-being." He finished.
Someone else stated, "Life Coach I've followed your advice from your earlier seminars and lost a few pounds and gotten into shape. I'm looking good and I'm dressed very well. But I'm still afraid to talk to girls. My friends mock me and call me a loser for it. What do I do?"
"Bullies will always be bullies." The Life Coach cleared his throat and spoke, "Feeling nervous or anxious about talking to someone you're attracted to especially if you're not used to it, is very common. But, whether or not someone else is interested in you, you shouldn't be disappointed. And also, let me just say this, teasing or mocking someone for their feelings or actions is not okay.
If your friends are making fun of you for being afraid to talk to girls, it's important to set boundaries and let them know that this behaviour is not acceptable or just let them know that their comments are hurtful and that you don't appreciate being made fun of. Just speak your mind bro.
If you're feeling anxious about talking to chicks, it can be helpful to focus on building your self-confidence and finding ways to feel more comfortable in social situations. Practice small talk; join a social group or club. If the thing that is preventing you from approaching a lady is down to being rejected then don't sweat this too much. Even I have been rejected multiple times and I've also given out rejections. These things are common in the dating world my friend, so don't take it to heart. Be a man, be strong."
"Life Coach, can you give me a scenario of a boy talking to a girl he likes? I want to prepare before I try to shoot my shot." I hate to admit this, but this question came from me. I was the one who typed it in the chat. I waited for the Life Coach's response.
"Haha, you people in the chat are trying to pull out all of my wisdom hair today. Alright for the sake of educating you youngsters on dating I'll tell you a scenario of a boy talking to a girl he likes:
Ahem, a boy is walking through the park when he sees this pretty girl sitting on a bench, reading a book. He feels a bit of nervous excitement as he approaches her.
"Hi, how's it going?" the boy says, trying to sound casual.
The girl looks up and smiles. "Hi, I'm good. How are you?"
"I'm doing well, thanks. I'm sorry to bother you, but I just wanted to introduce myself. My name is John." He said.
"Hi, John. I'm Sarah. It's nice to meet you." She said.
"It's nice to meet you too, Sarah. What are you reading?" He asked.
"It's a mystery novel. I love getting lost in a good mystery." She responded with a curt smile on her face.
"I love mysteries too." Said, John. "Have you read any other good books lately?"
Sarah and John continue to chat about books and other topics, and before they know it, an hour has passed. They exchange phone numbers and make plans to meet up again soon.
As John walks away, he can't stop grinning. He can't believe he actually talked to the girl he's been crushing on for so long, and that she seems interested in him too. He can't wait to see her again.
This is the end of the story. So are you satisfied?"
Wow, that was masterful storytelling. At least this was what I thought, but the people in the audience as well as the chat didn't feel the same. Some of them were saying that in reality, it could never be that simple. Sarah would have probably kicked John in the balls for entering her space.
Shortly, Life Coach commented, "From what I'm seeing in the chat, it seems you young men see women as ruthless beasts. Where did you get this idea from? Normand that. Since you are all so displeased with my storytelling. I will voice another scenario more closely to what you would typically expect:
I'm walking to my next class when I see her sitting at her locker, surrounded by her friends. Sarah was the most beautiful girl in my eyes. I feel a surge of nervous excitement as I approach her.
"Hey, how's it going?" I say, trying to sound casual.
She looks up and scowls. "What do you want?"
"I just wanted to let you know that I think you're really amazing," I say, feeling my cheeks flush. "I've had a crush on you for a while now, and I was hoping maybe we could hang out sometime?"
She rolls her eyes and crosses her arms. "Look, I don't know who you think you are, but I'm not interested. Leave me alone, jerk."
I feel a sense of embarrassment and rejection as she turns away from me and goes back to talking to her friends. I can't believe I gathered the courage to talk to her, only to be rejected so harshly. So I slink away, feeling defeated. But looking back, at least I tried. So this should give me the courage to approach other women who are not as pretty as Sarah. The end.
How was that for a realistic story? I got rejected but that won't stop me from approaching other women. This is how you build confidence, young men. Let rejection be a fuel to push you further."
I thought this was a great bit of advice given by the Life Coach. The audience and chat also thought the same thing. Fixing my eyes on the screen, I noticed another question proposed by someone.
"Life Coach the girl that I used to date said that my eggplant was too small then she left me for someone else. How do I get over this break-up?"