Waaaw, said Aunty Glow. She was very impressed by the way Edwina had agreed to learn to love and be loved. She looked at the lady's dress and how she was all packed for day one.
She said, you see what I always say, you are just beautiful. You look stunning. I am very grateful that you have accepted me. Thanks, said old Glow. You are welcome, Edwina responded with a smile.
Old Glow said to Edwina: You must be very excited for the day. She responded happily. Yes, yes please. I am. For once in my life I am blessed to have someone come to mu aid to help me without looking down upon me. But rather have accepted me the way I am. I am grateful.
Aunty Glow said, have you started the "I am grateful again"? I told you to hold on till the 31st day. Hahahaha, laughed Edwina. She said to old Glow: you know I can't do that. I am a well-trained lady who knows simple "thank you and sorry".
Now I am going to say, "I am grateful" again. Old Glow laughed and laughed till she couldn't control her laughter. She just told Edwina, feel free. You are getting healed and restored.
While these moment of joy and happiness was happening, Aunty Glow walked to a beach near her hotel. They sat on the roof top which was designed with green grass and other beautiful plants and flowers. It also had a cute fountain made of 7 beautiful Angels. As they sat, they viewed the beautiful beach and its waves. The rooftop was like a green house.
Aunty Glow looked at Edwina and she smiled. She said to her, life is beautiful. It's good to love and be love. Love is everywhere. But love is not fondness, affection, desire or physical attraction. Love is also not spontaneously. Rather, love is an inner virtue we must work on and develop.
Once a person is filled with happiness and peace, then he is in a position to practice love by loving themselves and loving others. If they do not love themselves, then they can't love others.
Pain is something that blocks our ability to love ourselves and others. And the one who created us, irrespective of our religious backgrounds did that on the grounds of love. He loved us and He valued us. He had a plan.
Edwina can I tell you something? Said old Glow. Edwina responded, yes please. Old Glow said, it is stated in Song of Solomon chapter 3:5, "I charge you O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles or by the...., Do not stir up nor awaken love, until it pleases.
What does it mean by until love pleases? Edwina asked respectfully. Okay, to enable me to help you, I will ask you a few questions based on your past experiences with love. If you don't me asking. Sure, old Glow. Please go ahead.
Let's go into the dictionary: to please means to give satisfaction. One can be satisfied when he or she have heard an information which he or she knows it is true and they are happy about it.
Edwina replied, it's true, really true. Most of the things that these guys told me seems to me like they were lying to me. Oh I haven't even began to ask you the questions but you are already getting it. That's wonderful, said Old Glow.
So you have to know yourself in order to accept the information the other person will bring. Most of the time, it will be the best for both of you to know yourselves. This will even make the relationship more interesting. Instead of complementing each other wrongfully, you will come together and help each other. That is the formula for love. It is GIVE AND RECEIVE, HELP and be HAPPY, said Old Glow.
When love is one sided, that relationship will never survive. When these two are not matured enough, the relationship will not stand. Maturity is knowing yourself and accepting others as they are.
Old Glow said, What Love is not; Love does not mean:
I like you that is just attraction.
I desire that is just satisfaction.
Kindness that is sentiment.
Joining together that is just agreement.
Friendship that is sharing.
Love means being happy with others happiness. It means accepting them as they are.
Love is the matter of the heart and of the soul. Love is not the body. If the body is destroyed, and love is based on attraction, there will be no love. In short, learn to love with your heart and your soul. These two cannot be destroyed easily. This is because, they are in the hands of our creator.
Edwina asked, how can I love from my heart? That is a good question, replied Old Glow. Just about the time old Glow was about to explain, a gentleman walked to them. He was dressed neatly in a uniform which seems to be one of the workers of the hotel.
Oh Ron, shouted Old Glow. How are you doing? He replied, great madam, thanks. And you? Asked Ron. I am also great, thanks. Then he saw Edwina and he greeted her and said, hi my lady. You look beautiful. She smiled and responded, thanks.
This time instead of her rushing to the guy to say "hi", she waited patiently for her turn. She was happy for the first step. She didn't ask the guy out, neither did she even introduce herself. It was just a lovely greeting. Impressive. These were thoughts of Old Glow.
While she had these thoughts, Edwina stirred at her and smiled. Ron brought a document to Old Glow to sign. Ron was the CEO of the hotels. Secretly Ron was Old Glow's son. Edwina didn't know about it. She looked at him and smiled, while he also did the same. That was Love at first sight.
Now hold on, hold on, that was the first connection (interest). The next step will depend on them. It all begins with individual's perception of each other. Let the fun begins.....
Thanks, then Ron took the signed document and he left. Before he actually left, he looked at Edwina and he said it was nice meeting you. Have a blessed day. Then he left.
Edwina smiled and looked at him as he walked lackadaisically. While he walked away, he said to himself: that was quiet a lady. She's beautiful. Wow. I must know more about this wonderful lady. My day is already blessed.
Edwina also had these thoughts: he's so handsome. Waw, that's a man, a real man. Since old Glow was experienced in the matters of love, she looked at her and said: no, no not yet, not yet, wait a little, let's grow together. Of course he is handsome. He is a gentleman. This is our first case study.
You see Edwina, she said. You have not known him much. But there is a connection. That is the foundation of love. You just saw each other. It was a short time but communication formed the base. The way he spoke to you. He valued and respected you. He was not wearing a suit to attract you. He was just in a work uniform.
Men, communication is everything. Women are drawn to men who know how to talk to them. That is true, said Edwina. She continued: Old Glow, no can I call you mum. I feel this connection of a mother I never had. Can I? She said sure, you can.
I must confess, said Edwina. Immediately I saw him, I became annoyed within me. I decided not to even look at him. But when he spoke, my heart rolled. And it began to move in my stomach. Glow began to laugh, she said eeeeeii, my daughter. That is true. Sometimes we meet people and we just don't like them. But let me tell you something: if we fall in love with the wrong person (the person who do not support your purpose and mission in life) we will regret forever and unhappy as well. A lot of people are in relationships that had ruin their lives.
Edwina said that is true, I have been unhappy whenever a guy damped me. I saw myself as nothing and looked down upon myself. In this life, we are meant to fall in love as many time as possible till we get it right. We should not feel ashamed when we fail in the matters of love.
Look who is talking, shouted old Glow. Hahaha, laughed Edwina. I like that, said Glow. You have learnt something. We will continue tomorrow and I will teach you how to discover and understand yourself. And also we will learn about the tools of love in the other chapters. If you could remember, Ron respected and valued you immediately he saw you. It also shows how he valued and respected himself.
While they left the roof top, they met a few gentlemen by the beach near the hotel reception. They looked at Edwina and she looked at them. This time she didn't go to them. Instead she waved at them. And smiled. And they looked at her and they waved back. They looked happy.
Edwina had a startup company which she started recently. This gave her the freedom to move around and meet people on a daily basis. She was an interior decorator. The name of her company is "Décor-Inn". While she decided to be with Glow each day for 31 days, she had decided to commit the mornings to her love journey.