What does having closure mean?
Closure means finality or wholeness; a letting go of what was once. Seeking closure means full acceptance of what has happened, and accepting the transition away from what has been done to something new.
Closure for me doesn't come from knowing how this person did it. Closure comes from loving ourselves, recognizing one's worth and actually understanding what we deserve. It's seeing the other person in our subconscious for who they really are, not because we made them.
You're not meant to be anyone else to please someone. You are who you are and don't give up for anything else.
Sometimes I wake up and have to remind myself: "There is NOTHING WRONG WITH ME."
I have habits to unlearn, adopt new values, and wounds to heal. But perhaps the essence of me, and who I am— is nothing wrong. I am still learning, remembering what pain is, and I know what love is all about. This takes some time.
We have this overwhelming willingness to feel wanted and accepted. We crave it in a world that seems so connected yet so far away from having real communication. And things like Instagram and Facebook don't help— we swipe away our self-worth by comparing our lives to photos of imaginary gods and goddesses; world-fantasy versus reality.
Do not compromise the person you are to fit the insecurities, envy or lack of affection of someone else. And stop making your happiness rely solely on the feelings of someone else. You have never been the person to consider yourself low, you're better than this!
We are better than this!!
The BEST thing I learned was to stop fighting for someone who was okay with losing me.
It's not about having the perfect relationship. It's about finding someone who suits you, and going through it without giving up. A relationship is not about age, not about distance, not about communication every moment of everyday. What's more important is a man should take care of his woman, and a woman should take care of his man. No one is before the other. It's about trust, respect and teamwork.
Love was never meant to be easy.
People fight.
People make mistakes, but we make up.
We don't really need closure. We ought to just find ourselves.
The bravest thing I ever did was continue my life when I wanted to die, and nobody really knows. Regardless, how many challenges they throw at you. Keep on fighting, and moving on.