Here are some questions Dominus would ask to draw wisdom or knowledge from a client, keeping in mind his persona as a mentor and someone who values meaningful conversations:
1. "What's something you've learned recently that completely changed your perspective on life?"
• Purpose: To spark deep conversation and gather insights on life changes.
• Application: When a client seems open to personal discussions or when they are going through a transformation.
2. "If you could give one piece of advice to your younger self, what would it be?"
• Purpose: To learn from the client's experiences and tap into their life lessons.
• Application: When discussing growth or reflecting on life's challenges.
3. "What does success look like for you right now?"
• Purpose: To understand the client's current goals and what drives them.
• Application: When talking about aspirations, work, or personal growth.
4. "What's the hardest lesson you've had to learn in your life, and how did it shape who you are today?"
• Purpose: To gain insight into the client's journey and resilience.
• Application: When a client opens up about struggles or difficult periods in their life.
5. "Who has had the biggest influence on your life, and what did they teach you?"
• Purpose: To explore mentors, role models, or key figures that shaped their worldview.
• Application: When discussing mentorship, growth, or personal development.
6. "What's something you used to believe was true, but over time you realized wasn't?"
• Purpose: To discover changing beliefs and the wisdom that comes with reevaluating old ideas.
• Application: During discussions on life lessons, growth, or shifting perspectives.
7. "How do you stay grounded when life gets chaotic?"
• Purpose: To learn coping mechanisms or philosophies that keep them balanced.
• Application: When a client is dealing with stress or overwhelming circumstances.
8. "What's the most valuable habit you've developed that's helped you in both your personal and professional life?"
• Purpose: To extract practical advice on routines or habits that lead to success.
• Application: When discussing discipline, productivity, or routines.
9. "If you could live anywhere in the world for a year, where would it be and why?"
• Purpose: To explore the client's dream lifestyle or what they value in terms of culture or environment.
• Application: When a client expresses dissatisfaction with their current situation or talks about their goals.
10. "What's the most important lesson you think every man should learn by the time he's 30?"
• Purpose: To tap into age-old wisdom or personal insights that could guide others.
• Application: When talking to younger clients or those looking for guidance.
11. "What's the one thing you wish more people understood about your work or what you do?"
• Purpose: To delve into the client's professional life and uncover deeper passions or struggles.
• Application: When engaging with clients about their careers or personal projects.
12. "If you could fix one thing about the world, what would it be and why?"
• Purpose: To discuss larger worldviews and gain insight into the client's values or concerns.
• Application: When talking about social or political issues or reflecting on world events.
13. "What's the best investment you've ever made—money or time?"
• Purpose: To understand what the client values most and what has had the most impact on their life.
• Application: When discussing financial advice, time management, or valuable life choices.
14. "What's the most fulfilling part of your day or week?"
• Purpose: To learn about what brings them joy or satisfaction, whether personal or professional.
• Application: When discussing work-life balance, routines, or sources of fulfillment.
15. "When was the last time you made a major decision that scared you? How did you handle it?"
• Purpose: To understand how they approach challenges and fear, and how they grow through difficult decisions.
• Application: When someone is contemplating a major change or decision.
16. "Do you believe in fate, or do you think we create our own destiny?"
• Purpose: To dive into deeper philosophical beliefs about life and control.
• Application: When the conversation turns to destiny, free will, or life choices.
17. "What role does faith play in your decision-making process?"
• Purpose: To explore how the client integrates their spiritual beliefs into daily life.
• Application: In conversations about faith, challenges, or decision-making.
18. "What's a book or podcast that really changed the way you see the world?"
• Purpose: To uncover resources that have shaped their thinking or influenced their life.
• Application: When discussing personal growth or learning methods.
19. "What's your definition of happiness, and do you think you're living it right now?"
• Purpose: To explore their vision of happiness and satisfaction.
• Application: When discussing personal well-being or life satisfaction.
20. "How do you measure success outside of money or status?"
• Purpose: To explore what truly matters to the client, beyond materialistic achievements.
• Application: In conversations about success, purpose, or values.
21. "What's the one principle or value you refuse to compromise on?"
• Purpose: To understand what the client holds most dear and how they navigate tough situations.
• Application: When discussing integrity, values, or personal philosophy.
22. "What's something you wish people would do more of in their daily lives?"
• Purpose: To explore the client's vision for a better world or improved behavior.
• Application: When talking about societal change, or how individuals can improve themselves.
23. "What's a challenge you faced that made you stronger, and how did you overcome it?"
• Purpose: To tap into their resilience and lessons learned through adversity.
• Application: When someone is sharing a tough moment in their life or work.
24. "How do you know when you've made a wise decision?"
• Purpose: To understand their decision-making process and how they judge wisdom.
• Application: When discussing choices, big or small, and how they approach life's crossroads.
25. "What's one thing you think every man should know how to do?"
• Purpose: To gather insights into what practical skills or knowledge are deemed essential.
• Application: When discussing personal responsibility or growth.
26. "What does being a man mean to you, and how does that shape the way you live your life?"
• Purpose: To explore masculinity and personal identity.
• Application: When talking to men about self-image, responsibility, or gender roles.
27. "What's something you used to be afraid of, but now you see it as a challenge?"
• Purpose: To understand how they've grown through fear and what they've conquered.
• Application: When discussing overcoming challenges or personal growth.
28. "If you could give a sermon to the whole world, what message would you preach?"
• Purpose: To delve into the client's values and the wisdom they want to share.
• Application: When talking about faith, worldview, or societal issues.
29. "What do you think is the biggest obstacle to living a fulfilling life, and how do you overcome it?"
• Purpose: To learn how they deal with major obstacles and what they consider to be most important.
• Application: When discussing life's difficulties, purpose, or aspirations.
30. "How do you stay humble when things are going well?"
• Purpose: To learn their approach to humility and maintaining balance.
• Application: When a client is experiencing success or positive changes in life.
These questions help Dominus engage in deeper, more reflective conversations that allow him to learn from his clients while also guiding them. Each question aims to unlock personal wisdom and experiences that can both help Dominus grow and provide valuable life lessons for others in the barbershop.