💖7 PRACTICAL STEPS TO HAVE TANTRIC SEX💖
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💖1) CREATE YOUR SPACE💖
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Tantric sex starts well before sex. By creating an atmosphere and setting the mood, you'll be able to remain in the moment and remain ultra-aware of your energy. Start by clearing your room of clutter. Add flowers, candles and even fabrics that will set a mood that's both sensual and tranquil.
Tantra encourages you to focus on all your senses, so incorporating lighting, scents, sounds, and even temperature into your sexual space will aid your tantric journey.
💖2) BREATH TOGETHER💖
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Breathing is key in tantra, and you and your man can use breathing to increase your own intimacy. I want you to use a technique called breathing each other's breath.
This requires you to face your partner. You then need to breath in as your partner breathes out. Straddling your partner provides easy access, or you could also lie in bed facing one another.
You can practice breathing first by yourself. Inhale for a count of seven before you exhale. Practice exhaling for longer than it takes to breathe in. As you breathe in, you can visualize that breath becoming energy that you can "send" to different parts of your body or even chakras.
If you do this right, you might even be able to use this energy to achieve a full body orgasm.
A tip for your guy – During sex, he should try to exhale when thrusting in and then inhale when pulling out. As he feels closer to orgasm, he should then switch this.
💖3) MAKE EYES CONTACT💖
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Tantric sex positions enable you to keep eye contact with your lover. Too often in Western culture, we close our eyes while having sex. Even if your favorite type of sex is intimate love making, you might find yourself avoiding eye contact, especially during orgasm.
However, keeping your eyes locked allows you to remain aware and connected in yet another way. It might be awkward or uncomfortable at first, but keep at it and both of you will be able to relax into it.
Many of the sex positions that facilitate eye contact are great for romantic sex.
💖4) STAY IN THE MOMENT MINDFULNESS💖
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Yes, we've talked about staying in the moment and mindfulness a lot already, but it's really important to tantric sex.
Conscious touch – If you have trouble remaining in the moment, then the idea of conscious touch can help you to remain grounded. Remain aware of where and how you're touching your lover rather than going through the motions — literally.
Focus on your intent – It can also help to keep your head in the moment by focusing on what your intent is. Do you want to make him feel good? Are you trying to remain connected? Or does your touch express how much you're enjoying his lips and tongue on your clit? More on oral sex tips here.
💖5) GET IN POSITIONS💖
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A bit further down you can read suggestions for tantric sex positions that facilitate breathing, eye contact, and full-body sex. But two practices are commonly employed during tantric sex.
Hand on Heart – One method to connect with your partner and to exchange energy is to place a hand on your partner's heart and have them do the same. Your free hands should also be touching and can be interlocked.
You can then feel their heart beat as you engage in sexual activity. Alternatively, have your man place his hand over your heart as you place your hand on top of is.
Nurturing Meditation – When the two of you are in spoon position (learn how to spoon), the "big spoon" will place his bottom arm below your neck on the bed and bend it at the elbow to touch your third eye (forehead). He'll wrap his top arm over your body and lay his hand against your heart chakra. Then place your hand on top of his.
💖6) STAY STILL💖
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You probably think that sex requires a lot of movement, but that's not always the case. There may be times during tantric sex when you're not actively moving or talking. Although, you may find yourself making natural sounds that come along with sexual pleasure.
In fact, some tantrikas believe you can make love without intercourse when you incorporate aspects of tantric sex.
Don't race through any foreplay activity. So many people think of intercourse as the main event, but all sexual activity can be rewarding and intimate.
Site Note: One activity that's excellent for foreplay and connecting with your partner is sensual massage. Learn the secrets of giving a great sensual massage.
💖7) SKIP ORGASM💖
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One of the aspects of tantric sex is having sex without an orgasm [30]. Although this may not sound like any fun, remember that an orgasm isn't the only source of pleasure during sex.
Tantric sex emphasizes control, and this includes control over when and how you orgasm. For men especially, breathing techniques and mindfulness can prolong sex without ejaculation, potentially leading to a more powerful orgasm later.
Men should also consider that being able to control your body may even help you to orgasm without ejaculating, which is the key to multiple orgasms for some men [31 p 27].
Even if an orgasm cannot be stopped, focusing on sex as something you create together and not a quest with an end goal can add a completely new and satisfying dimension to your sex life.
A new focus on foreplay – Because the focus shifts away from orgasm with tantra, sex takes foreplay from a bonus to a necessity.
Of course, foreplay may be exactly what gets you off if you're like many women (after all, most women find it easier to orgasm with clitoral stimulation [32]). It just makes sense to take your time and include plenty of foreplay if you want to be fully aroused and sexually satisfied. It's also a great way to get out of any bedroom rut you may find yourself in.
So, trade in those quickies for a sensual experience that isn't goal oriented, and you might find your sex life is rejuvenated. You may even become someone capable of multiple orgasms!
If you can't get down with the facets of tantra, you can get many of the benefits by practicing slow sex.
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~Male Sexuality & his Subtle Anatomy in Esoteric Sexology~
What every man should know when aspiring on the spiritual path in relationship
In regards to human sexuality, it is very important to deeply comprehend the purpose & function of the vital body & how it operates in both male & female subtle anatomy during sexual excitement. Let us remember that Esoteric Sexology is based in the science of endocrinology.
The hormonal-neurological system that's empowered & excited by the sexual energy produces wonders within the human consciousness in where the Divine is touched, perceived & directly experienced.
The vital body is the bridge between the chakras, the glandular system & the physical body. It has always baffled physicians that the glands are ductless & are situated along the center of the body. Why is this so?
Along the central channel we discover the 7 Chakras; each serve as the power-source of the glands themselves. The Chakras absorb the subtle cosmic forces of the 4th Dimension that manage the creative vitality of life. These forces are known as Tattvas.
The Tattvas are the blueprint of the 5 Elements: Akasha, Vayu, Tejas, Apas, Prithvi, which our entire Universe is constructed out of. We are the microcosm of the macrocosmic totality, & within our very own vitality, the Tattvas give us life through our glands.
During the arousal of our sexual energy, the Tattvas begin to vibrate at a higher frequency, allowing a chain-reaction to take place; our Chakras begin to spin faster, causing our glands to produce special hormonal secretions. It is during these sacred moments of arousal that we have higher levels of endorphines, testosterone, estrogen, dopamine, oxytocin & vasopressin. These divine elixirs enter into the blood stream & in turn cause (in men) the most wondrous of all physical feats: the erection of the phallus.
During the inebriation of sexual arousal, the two Nadis, Ida-Pingala, become charged as well, & it is with the charge of these two channels that we can truly begin to tap into the alchemical art of Transorgasmic Sex.
The vital body is the counterpart of the physical body, & without it, we'd have no animation in our physicality. The Vital body is made up of a network of channels, called Nadis.
The Vital body is our 4th Dimensional Energetic Body. We all have this inner-energetic body that is the archetype of our primordial androgyny, by way of Ida-Pingala, our inner Sun & Moon.
It is stated within the tantric text, & by mystics who have direct perception, that there are 72,000 channels that make up the lattice-like structor of the Vital Body. Out of these 72,000, 3 are of most concern because of their importance.
These are respectively the Central Channel, called Sushumna Nadi, that runs from the base of the spine to the crown, & the Lunar & Solar Channels, called Ida Nadi & Pingala Nadi, that intertwine up the central channel. These are the Two Serpents of Red & Blue Light, which are positively & negatively charged (electrically speaking).
These two positive & negative forces are what provide the basis of sexual energy itself. They are the primordial male & female energies of life within us.
The left channel is the Female/Lunar Channel that begins in its respective sexual gland. The right channel is the Male/Solar Channel that too starts in its gonad.
Within the male, the Male/Solar-Pingala Nadi begins in the right testicle, extending all the way to the left nostril. The Female/Lunar-Ida Nadi begins in the left testicle, & extends all the way up to the right nostril.
It is the mirror reflection within female subtle anatomy.
The concern for these Nadis are of vital importance for our process in spiritual development. This is why within the sacred traditions, there's so much emphasis on 'how' the sexual energy is managed. It is through the cultivation of the knowledge & experience of the Nadis that we discover the 'why' of their deep importance.
When in sexual union, the couple become truly one androgynous being, who are enveloped in an Aura that's charged like a cloud that conceals lightning. This is due to the activation of the Ida & Pingala.
What most pseudo-tantric teachers fail to mention, is that if/when the couple reach the climax of orgasm/ejaculation, the energy of the blue Serpent (Ida-Lunar Nadi) is completely discharged, leaving no hope for the arousal of Devi-Kundalini, let alone the activation & nourishment of the Chakras.
It is the conventional pleasure of such a discharge that this humanity craves so-much, due to the fact that they have yet to experience the rapturous bliss caused by the Transorgasmic experience.
Only when the energy is retained & fed to the Two Serpents, does the Maha-Serpent (Devi-Kundalini) Awaken to slay the ego, & give birth to the Divine Soul.
Here's what most religions, & political powers of this day & age do not want us to discover, know & cultivate: All of the archetypes of Divinity are within our sexual energy. The semen itself carries all the blueprints,not only for physical life, but most importantly for spiritual life.
Your very own Ishta-Devata (chosen deity) abides in your creative force/semen/sexual energy. If you want to become the embodiment of Divinity, then you must become a Brahmacharya, the embodiment-emanation of Brahma.
(Brahmacharya does not mean celibacy, as many mistakenly believe. It means to manage your sexual energy wisely by not spilling a drop, thereby becoming Brahma manifest!) This is the secret of secrets.
Second to developing as a truly awakened soul for the benefit of humanity, you will become a better lover, with the ability to enjoy a lasting & joyful partnership with your beloved.
As current studies in the field of neuroscience have shown, it is the neuro-chemical oxytocin that determines our deep, lasting bonds in relationship. As soon as we are depleted of this "love hormone", the fire of passion is snuffed out, & after continual depletion, a break-ups soon follow.
How does one deplete this wonderful hormone oxytocin? By ejaculating the semen/orgasm. As soon as we reach climax that ends with ejaculation, all of the oxytocin that the limbic system of the brain's been secreting, is lost in the semen. This is why the man rolls over to sleep, & the woman wants to keep going, or at least cuddle!
Most spiritual practitioners within our day & age have many misconceptions when it comes to the topic of awakening the Serpent of Fire. The most common one is that when one feels a spark of Shakti, or a simple spin of Muladhara or Swadhisthana Chakra that they've aroused Devi-Kundalini.This can be dispelled by looking at ones sexual habits. If one is having sex that ends with the spasm of orgasm, then one can be for certain that Devi-Kundalini has not stirred one bit.
During the orgasmic spasm (in both men & women) the hormonal-neuro-chemical secretions are spent. This is why the initiate is trained to Transmute; it is these very secretions that serve as food for the Serpent.
When the Serpent is fed, then the state of Enlightenment is cultivated in the Consciousness. This is the most secret of secrets of Vajrayana. Bodhichitta (in Vajrayana/Esoteric Buddhism)) is the semen itself.
If you're seeking a relationship that radiates delightful fulfillment, & that fuels spiritual development, then Transorgasmic Sex is surly worth the try.
Raise your chalice toward the Heavens my brothers, & be mindful not to spill a drop.