THE GODDESS
AND THE PATH TO THE HEART
Awaken Pleasure in the Goddess and
You Wil l Be Able to Kindle Her Heart
"There is no way to open up
other than the female way.
There is no yesterday or now or tomorrow,
or any other fortune but woman, nor any other kingdom,
pilgrimage or yoga,
or prayer, or magic formula,
or any other fulfillment than what woman provides."
—Shaktisangama, Tantra: Beyond the Orgasm
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Awakening the Goddess
The act of lovemaking is an experience beyond comparison, both in
regard to the sensations and to the feelings that reveal our deepest, remotest core. This experience is intimately related to erotic play. The internal female energy has the role of initiating this game, while the male
energy has the function of exciting and provoking the sexual impulse.
In direct contrast to animals, human beings display eroticism and are
able to dissociate sexual expression from the instinct to procreate.
Going a step further, followers of Tantra believe in the possibility and
freedom to choose the moment of pleasure.
Sexual dissatisfaction arises in a couple, for starters, because the first
orgasm is only the beginning for a woman, while ejaculation ends the
man's erection and interrupts female excitation. These differences confirm the fact that a woman needs sexual stimulation beyond the genital
aspect, since the first orgasm is not enough to truly satisfy her.
The question is, then, what can be done so that the woman's enjoyment continues beyond the first orgasm?
The Poles of Limitless Pleasure
The woman has two sensitive poles loaded with sexual energy. In Tantric
philosophy, the North Pole is the clitoris, the most accessible spot and so
far the only one recognized. The South Pole is deeper and is called the
Sacred Spot. Some sexual therapists refer to it as the mysterious G-spot.
The clitoris sits like a bell on the upper part of the vulva. It's the
only organ in the body whose function is to generate pleasure. Even
though the head of the clitoris is small, most women are able to touch
and stimulate it easily. She can also stimulate it with the male organ as
foreplay to penetration.
But finding the Sacred Spot requires such a sense of touch that it is
difficult for a woman to find it by herself. If you find this Sacred Spot,
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you will be able to liberate the womanly sexual and spiritual potential,
which then acts as a healing power.
Some women have been able to locate this spot by themselves, by
pressing two fingers inside the vagina upward toward the navel while
simultaneously pressing down with the other hand just above the pubic
bone. If a woman succeeds in stimulating or massaging this area, the
spot will swell and may become palpable to her partner. However, for
most women this part of the process of awakening requires the gentle
touch of their partner, who must be ready to respect the physically and
psychologically vulnerable nature of this site. That is why Tantric discipline provides methods to assimilate rapidly the knowledge about female pleasure and the poles of ecstasy.
The Sacred Spot, as known by Tantra followers, is located deep in the
vagina and is much more protected than the clitoris. Finding it and stimulating it produces the most intense pleasure that can be experienced, but
to achieve this, a couple needs much patience and dedication.
If the woman hasn't had positive sexual experiences, this area must
be caressed most carefully and gently. Little by little, the couple will
learn to stimulate it and this will bring about a physical and spiritual
well-being in the woman that transcends the sexual aspects. It is most
important for the couple to overcome their prejudices and learn how
to kindle the inner flame that sustains the spirit dwelling in each of us.
This way, lovers will be able to purify their negative experiences.
A woman must know her body and explore her satisfaction without
guilt, so that she is able to tell her lover what she really needs. Having a
full relationship increases self-esteem and creates a sense of vitality and
enthusiasm.
The Goddess' Pleasure
Tantra places a primordial importance on love and sexuality. The performance is a sacred ritual that seeks to connect one's physical and spir-
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itual energy. This translates into the names given to the organs: lingam for
the male organ, which means "shaft of light," and yoni for the female
organs, which translates as "sacred space."
In Tantra, spiritual consciousness is intimately related to the awakening
of the goddess, who holds the power of universal creative energy. The
power possessed by female energy is so great that at times it becomes uncontrollable. That is why Tantra seeks, in the sexual act, the pleasure of the
woman as a form of ecstasy and as a form of evolution for both partners.
In order to achieve this supreme pleasure, the woman's Sacred Spot
must be found, but this requires patience and experience. Learning to
know ourselves can provide us with multiple satisfactions, both sexually
and in life in general, but few women know their true intensity because
sex was, for centuries, a taboo subject. Many men and women still experience sex with a certain degree of guilt or disrespect. Maybe this is
why most couples don't know or don't share their needs, which prevents them from understanding each other.
Many people are not aware of the ways of pleasure and tend to believe that sexual stimulation is all in plain sight. But if the woman is successful in her search for her Sacred Spot, she will be able to experience
explosive orgasms. This uncontrollable sensation, and the transforming
power it entails, can even provoke a certain degree of fear if the woman
is not ready to experience such a high degree of intensity.
Perhaps not being able to manage their most primary instincts has
led women to repress them, and men to be afraid of not being able to
control such an overwhelming force. We need to stimulate and motivate each other in order to awaken the dormant energy hidden in our
bodies, so that we can get in touch with the very energy of the universe.
The power of pleasure is already inside of you—you only have to
decide to become aware of your divine possibilities.