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Chapter 2 - Me and my family

I did something before the death of my father.

I love my father so much, he was a very hardworking and gentleman but there's one thing I don't like about him which later lead to his death despite all our efforts to stop him.

I could remember something happened that I can never forget; before my father's death, he was seeing another woman and later on the woman was pregnant for my father and this leads to my father marrying the woman without choice.

My mother was not happy and she tried all her best to stop the wedding, which leads to court issue because my mother thought the court of law could help her stop my father from marrying the woman.

I was on a blessed monday morning, me and my immediate elder brother was to come to the court to testify to what my mother has said about being the one taking care of us and paying our school fees and shouldering most of the responsibility of my father in the house.

Of course, what my mother said is true and i came out to testify against my father which I later regret.

I came out to testify against my father at that time because the only thing I was thinking is just to stop him from marrying the other woman.

Later in the evening I started feeling bad for standing against my father in the court despite the fact that everything my mother said is true, yet I feel bad and I regret standing against him because I love him so much and resemble him more than anyone else in the family.

On the wedding day morning, my father came home to take his Bath and get dress for the wedding; me and my elder sister and brother together with my mother was sitting down in the visitors room when he entered into his room to get prepared and then we decided to lock him up inside the room to stop him from going to the wedding but he forced the door and the door broke down and he went to marry the woman.

On the second day, he was sitting in the visitors room while I was sitting down outside the house then two man came to see him, they asked me about my father and I told them I don't have a father and I don't know the person they are asking for despite the fact that he was hearing the conversation where he was sitting in the visitors room.

Few minutes later he came out and the two men said is this not your father and I said, he is not my father and I don't know him.

This was because I was still angry because of the wedding that took place before that day, I regret denying my own father and feel bad but there's nothing I can do; we were all trying to stop him but he never listen to anyone and I was angry. Then i was not a born again and don't know much about the word of God.

Later on, we became father and son again, I started following him to work to assist him. There was a day we went to the farm and I got stink by bee then he started laughing at me not knowing his own is coming. He started cutting a tree and there was bee on that tree then he got stink by bee and started laughing him too.

One thing about me and my father is That; we are father and son at home but in the farm we are friends.

Later on, I applied for a programme called IJMB at ilorin kwara State, this is a one year programm that will enable me to start in 200level in the University of my choice. my father followed me to ilorin just to know the school and make some necessary payment and because that was my first time of traveling to ilorin.

My father always make sure he call me everyday just to know about my well-being during my stay in ilorin, it got to a certain point it was as if my father has become my girlfriend. Three months later, I traveled back home on the 13th of August 2016 and he died on August 26th 2016 at the house of second woman he married due to some spiritual issue from that woman. Being a born again Christian is not the reason why I swear not to ever try to have a concubine talk less marrying second wife but the death of my father.

Like I said earlier, I did something to my father before he died. There was a certain time when his business was not going well then he is always sitting at home without money, so anytime I come back from labourer work I do share my money with him telling him to use it to buy fuel for him motorcycle, so that he will be able to go wherever he want to go and there was a day I wanted to see him and he asked me to come and meet him at the second wife's place and I went there to see him.

Getting there, I open the gate and I entered into the compound then a little girl was running towards Me to hug me; of course, I knew it was my half sister and I don't want to have anything to do with her, then I decided to change my face to a scary face and she run back and started crying. I don't know my father was sitting at a corner watching the whole drama between me and my half sister then he said to me; is this how you will continue treating your half sister even when I'm no more on earth then I started feeling bad for scaring her away from me and my father said, take care of her when I'm no more there, then I make a promise in my heart to love and care for her and that was the last thing my father requested me to do for him.

ADVICE FROM AUTHOR

Don't wait till when you have millions in your account before giving to your parents; you never know when God will decide to take them from you.

Be careful of what you do when you are angry; you may later regret it.

Don't side with anyone when there's a misunderstanding between your parents; stand in the middle and settle it.