Is being a girl so difficult?
From the day I was born, I have felt that being a girl is extremely difficult. It starts from the day
she steps into this cruel world.
Everytime a boy is born in a family, they are welcomed with open arms, saying 'Congratulations,
a king ( raja beta ) is here' but that doesn't happen with a girl. No one say's " a queen ( rani beti
) is born", instead, the family is being consoled. The status of women in our society is still not
valued and that saddens me to the core. There are a few of my observations that I wanted to
put across that I have seen throughout my life till date.
From my school life -
Whenever a boy cried in school, everyone consoled him saying don't cry, you are not a girl.
Does it make any sense?! What does expression of emotions have to do with gender? I don't
know why people still believe that girls are mentally , physically and emotionally weak. If a girl is
too friendly, she is judged termed characterless whereas if a girl chooses not to talk much, she
is again judged and given a tag of being boring.
From my teenage life -
Is being a girl so difficult? Well yes, I am not saying this because of the body shaming or painful
periods they go through. I am saying this because from a 4 months old baby girl to 86 years old
grandmother, no one is spared. No one is safe from RAPE. Yes, you read it right.
Conclusion -
Is being a girl so difficult ? Yes, because if a girl rejects a friend request sent by a man, she is
assumed to have a lot of attitude. Slut shaming has become so prevalent on social media. The
fact that now a girl can't even choose to ignore people on social media and we still ask this
question 'Is being a girl so difficult?' Yes, because a girl can be easily judged by the way she
dresses, the way she walks, the way she talks and the list continues. If you think girls are
mentally weak , read the story of Muniba Mazari , if you think girls are physically weak, watch a
video of Hima Das and if you think that a girl is emotionally weak , read the story of Malala
Yousafzai. If you think that girls are weak , watch your mother working day and night without
getting any salary or leave but still keeping a smile intact on her face.
"She was a wild one; always stomping on eggshells that everyone else tip-toed on." – Kaitlin
Foster
Written by -
Sumanta sarmah
Department of Commerce
Darrang College, Tezpur