Some people tell me, 'No Swamiji, I don't
love my son or daughter for any of these
reasons.' I ask them, 'Alright, if your son
suddenly starts to make his own decisions,
if he suddenly doesn't fit into your
framework, if he doesn't follow your
guidance, if he doesn't live according to
your rules, will your love for him be the
same?'
They tell me, 'No, it will not. My love will
be reduced a little!'
What does this mean? We love our next
generation as long as they are extensions
of our life. As long as they fall into our
pattern of thinking, as long as they live in
accordance with our conventions, we love
them. We simply fulfill our own desires
through them. We fulfill our lives through
them. Whatever we couldn't accomplish
in our youth, we try to accomplish through
them. We use them as an extension of our
own lives. If we wanted to be doctors and
couldn't for some reason, we inspire them
to be doctors. As long as they act and live
as an extension of our life, the relationship
is beautiful. But the moment they start
deciding on their own, the moment they
feel we are suffocating them, the moment
they stand up and say 'no', the relationship takes a different turn.
(LE, pg 22)
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