Jenn's past life, her dad is a stubborn and a bit short temper. Her dad is caring in his own way. He sometimes would cook for Jenn and her younger sister to eat. But, sometimes he is stubborn and has a temper. When she was younger and had some trouble learning long division,
for her homework, so she had to ask her mom to teach her a bit. That also led to her dad helping her too. But, she still didn't get it, and her dad ran out of patience after several times. His dad raised his voice a bit and started nagging at her, saying how can she even after explaining so much times, still don't understand how to solve long division. That made the young Jenn cry, and her dad still continue to nag her, saying you shouldn't be crying. Jenn couldn't stop crying even she is try so hard not to cry. It was making her homework paper wet. Her mom heard and came in her room and stay by her side. She told her husband to not nag such awful things to their young daughter. Telling him to have more patience. But, he didn't listen and keep on nagging. So, Jenn decided to put her homework aside behind her chair, so she can calm down and stop crying. But, for some reason, her dad didn't understand and thought she was having a temper and put away her homework in a careless way. But, she didn't do that. Her dad then suddenly threw a shoe in the direction to her, and got mad. Her mom saw and immediately raise her voice to her husband, saying why would he do that. Afterward, Jenn cried, because it scared her. While her dad said he was done teaching her and that she should just ask her mom, and just went out of the room. Once, he went out the room. Jenn cry a bit and then with the help of her mom comforting her, she calm down and stop crying. Her mom was saying that Jenn's dad did care about her, is just he has a bit of a temper. And, then her mom teach her how to do long division again. And, she managed to finally understand to solve long division. Jenn was happy. Her dad didn't get mad at her, after that. Life is good.
But, later on when Jenn was having summer break after her high school graduation. Her dad suddenly got mad at her mom. Don't know if he was taking his anger out on her because he lost some money from gambling in the casino. He got mad saying how Jenn's mom don't take care of Jenn, who has muscular for about 6 years now. But, Jenn's talk about and said she has been, which is true. And, then Jenn's dad went to talk about how Jenn's mom is secretly hiding money that she kept at their old house in past where they lived for awhile. Jenn's mom raised her voice saying is not true. For some reason Jenn's dad went in the room where Jenn is walking with a limp to get to her bed, so her mom can help her massge her feet. Her mom was walking towards the bed too. As, they were walking towards the bed. Jenn's dad went in so fast that he bump into Jenn and made her fell down in a kneeling position. Her dad hit her mom on the head. Her mom, yelled out his name and told him what is wrong with him. That made him stop a bit, but he was still nagging. At the small Jenn got scared and yell to her dad to stop. Jenn's younger sister then saw what happened and starts crying and got her plastic toy baseball bat to stop her dad, hitting his back slightly. But, dad managed to take the bat away. But, didn't hit her. Her mom then picks Jenn up to sit on the bed. Jenn's younger sister then went out the apartment unit crying, she wanted to ask for help next door. The next door neighbor came out. Jenn's dad saw this and said that what are doing, don't do that. Jenn's mom went out the door and talk in her broken English and hand gesture that everything is ok. After, that Jenn's dad stop being angry and told Jenn's sister to not to do that. Jenn and her mom went into her room and lay on the bed and cried a bit. Jenn cry and thought to herself: and asked: Why is her life like this? Why did her dad have such a short temper?" she also prayed that her dad will never lose temper and cause this pain she feels emotionally. Jenn's younger sister said that she wouldn't talk to their dad anymore.
After this, Jenn's dad started to not get mad anymore. Probably, he saw how is anger went out of control. Jenn's mom didn't talk to her dad. They didn't talk for like several months. Jenn and her younger sister still talk to him, but only when he asks ask him to help him find a show to watch on YouTube. Other than that, they don't talk. After several months, for some reason my mom started talking to him like normal again about work or about dinner. Deep down, Jenn's mom knows about his short temper, but probably seeing how he did get angry anymore. She try to talk to him. Everything was back to normal after that. Jenn's dad didn't get angry anymore. Jenn's mom and younger sister talks to him. But, for some reason Jenn's feel anxious and talks less with her dad. Her dad stop being anger and got violent, but he still sometimes nag at her. She finds comfort by watching videos on YouTube and listening to music. As times, goes by Jenn feel less anxious. But, sometimes when her dad suddenly talks loud, her heartbeats a bot fast. Even, if he is just talking loudly because he is excited. Jenn's feels just a tiny bit anxious. But, Jenn just tells herself that she shouldn't feel anxious, because is been two years since he got mad. She then slowly feel less anxious. And, continue with her life. Her dad also one day stop having short temper and don't nag her and her younger sister. Probably, is because he was getting older, and is not good for his health to be short temper and angry. Probably, also he don't go to the casino as much, because of the coronavirus quarantine. So, is like all the ends well.
When Jenn and her younger sister got older, they told her dad how they felt about his short temper and stubbornness. Their dad then apologize for what he did, saying it was out of love. The 2 sister forgave their dad, because they are family.
And, Jenn's mom would sometimes get stress from her hard work being a waiter in a restaurant. She works for 4 days for about 11 hours or more. And, on one of her 3 days not working, she would nag Jenn and her younger sister. Saying, things like that her daughter don't help her with chores. But, Jenn and her younger sister is just busy with school work to help her. Jenn and her younger sister will sometimes help out, but not all the time. Their mom also nag them a bit about school work. She does it many times, that Jenn would get anxious whenever her mom would start to nag. One, time Jenn got annoyed at her nagging and got mad that she punched the door of her room, and it made her skin have a tiny rip. And, it was pinkish red. Ever since then, Jenn felt that she shouldn't lose her temper. Anger is not the answer. Her younger sister also got angry at their mom's nagging too, sometimes. Jenn and her younger sister talk back a few times in a slightly annoyed tone, and that just make their mom more frustrated, that she lose her. temper and hit us on the arm. So, then Jenn and her younger sister decided to just not talk back and just ignore their mom until she is done nagging and ranting. They would listen to music or watch videos to calm down. It also help Jenn not be anxious hearing her mom nagging. Jenn and her younger sister knows that their mom nag them out of love. And, that ranting was kind of a way for their mom to release stress. They weren't ungrateful to their mom. Also, one time, Jenn and her younger sister told her mom calmly about how her nagging and ranting is just stressful. And, told her that they really do appreciate everything their mom do for them. And, that they were sorry for not having the time to help out their mom as much. There mom was understanding and said that she only nagging us out of love. And, ranting is a way to release her stress. Time passes by their mom didn't nag as much and ranted less. Their mom found another way to release stress. Their mom sleep and rest in bed. She also would watch fun and funny variety show to relax and feel energized and less stress and tired. So, is like all the ends well.
Also, Jenn's younger sister in her past life was sometimes a bit mean, rude, and judgmental during her teenage phrases where she was like 14 years old. She had a bit of a temper. So, Jenn and her parents try to tell her nicely to stop acting like that. But, it also ends more argument and stress. She is a good person, but is just her personality. This also give Jenn some anxiety. So, they decided to just leave her alone, and don't speak to her as much. They only talk to her for a bit when they are having dinner and watching tv. And, when she needs food. Or, when she wants to talk about the shows she watch. Sometimes, they still would laugh over happy things. Sometimes, Jenn and her sister spend sometime taking about anime and tv shows. By doing that her harsh personality won't show up.
As, she reached 16-19 and becoming an adult, she matured and her harsh personality is gone. Which is good, so now Jenn can finally feel less anxious.
Authors note:
This description is based on my experience. That last part of the description is what I want to do in the future, telling her dad how she felt about his temper and nagging. There is nothing to worry about now. Because everything in my family is happy and okay. Is has been about 2 years since the events happen. It happened in 2018.