So as many people I'm sure can agree with this one. Parents fighting. This can really effect a kids life. I know it affected mine, my brothers, and my best friends. A lot of kids think they are the problem, that their the reason it started. I have personally never felt that way and I'm not sure about my older brother but, one thing I do know is my stepbrother really does. I always knew he was hurting but I didn't know what to do. And to be honest I have a lot of regrets regarding this. When I was younger my mom and dad fought a lot. Because I was so young I don't remember most of anything at all. But I remember the night it ended, the night that really fucked up me and my brother. This night my dad tried to kill my mom. I'm not going to get into it but at the age of 3 and 5 it's really terrifying. Now I'm sure it would be to any age. But you would be able to help at least a little if you were older and knew what was happening. Me and my brother after this night we're different we hated men being around are mom. My brother had to go to therapy while I didn't because I was young enough to forget it. At least that what they thought. I had nightmares about it for a while but they went away. So I left it at that. Never talked about it. And a few years later my mom meet and amazing man. Amazing he help her so much. Well just cause they loved each other doesn't mean they don't fight. My brother ignores it but it's all I can think about cause I'm scared. I'm scared of what'll happen, now I know he would never hurt my mom but, that's not what I'm scared of. I'm scared she will give up. Because she gave up before, well before me and my brother were born but still. Now by give up I mean forget. She didn't try and kill herself, but she gave up on fighting back. She forgot who she was. My step brother goes threw the same but instead of his mom it was his sister, the only person he had when he wasn't with us gave up and he was actually there to see it. The difference is, he found her barely breathing on the floor of her bedroom. Things like this messes with a kids mind. It hurts them forever. Even if they weren't there for it. Now sorry for the little sap story but I needed an example. People change and get better. They get together with better people. They're safer and with there family. Kids get destroyed by this. Kids can't just forget. They don't move on as fast. Seeing these things will traumatize them. I think the older you are as a kid the more it'll hurt cause now you are used to seeing both parents and if they split or fight. It's a whole new world. What run threw there mind is just, "is it my fault," "who am I gonna live with," "please don't hurt each other," "Can I do something to help," "why," "why are they fighting," "why did you leave," and much more.
Now I know, yeah somethings I said are "obvious." But there really not. People don't typically bring these problems up. Now anyone who is reading this now I want to thank you for taking your time to. I may not have made many points or kinda repeated myself in different words but, I'm still a kid myself and I'm trying to explain the best I can. Anyways thanks for the support!