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What was a red flag that made you stop talking to a person immediately?
I once met a guy when I went to a restaurant and we started talking. We exchanged contacts and he seemed like a nice guy, we went out like two times. On the third time, while he was dropping me off, we started talking. I’ve forgotten what it was about but I know the conversation led to a rape topic.

Earlier that year in my country, a woman accused a pastor of raping her. So this guy asked me if they later found the pastor guilty and all that, I said no, that I stopped following the news after a while.

We were still talking on the issue, giving our opinions when he said something, he said “I don’t believe in rape, why can’t a girl push the man off when he wants to force himself on her, she is just enjoying it”.

After that statement, I didn’t say anything again, he dropped me off at home. Immediately, I blocked and deleted his number, thank God we didn’t have each other’s social media usernames yet.

It’s these type of people that have the mentality that, a woman’s body is their property to use anyhow and with the way the world is, rape stories everywhere, I don't want to become a victim, I have to protect myself.

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